I'm single, and I'm really good at being single. (You might say I'm better at being single than I am at being in a relationship, but that's another conversation for another day.) I don't know why, but a handful of my friends and/or family have been coming to me recently for dating advice. Maybe it's because they know that even though I am not in a relationship, I have dated my fair share? Who knows. Either way, I decided to share with you all the best dating advice I've ever come across in my 26 years:
He's Just Not That Into You.
Watch it. That's my advice. Watch it, and take mental notes.
If a guy wants to call you, he will. If he wants to contact you and he doesn't have your number, in this technologically advanced day and age, he will internet stalk you to find your Facebook / Instagram / Twitter account (true story). Same goes for us gals. If we want to answer a text from you, we will answer the first one. If you have to text us three times to get us to send a response, we are trying to let you down easily.
Once you are past the beginning stages of communicating and getting the feel for one another, then it's a little easier to figure out. It's the initial Does he/she like me? think I'm interesting? want to talk to me? part that can be made to feel so darn convoluted, which is what this movie addresses, in my opinion, so well.
Watch it. That's my advice. Watch it, and take mental notes.
If a guy wants to call you, he will. If he wants to contact you and he doesn't have your number, in this technologically advanced day and age, he will internet stalk you to find your Facebook / Instagram / Twitter account (true story). Same goes for us gals. If we want to answer a text from you, we will answer the first one. If you have to text us three times to get us to send a response, we are trying to let you down easily.
Once you are past the beginning stages of communicating and getting the feel for one another, then it's a little easier to figure out. It's the initial Does he/she like me? think I'm interesting? want to talk to me? part that can be made to feel so darn convoluted, which is what this movie addresses, in my opinion, so well.
So, if you are single and in the dating scene and have not seen this movie, rent it this weekend, and let me know what you think.
If you've seen it already, do you agree that the message of the movie is pretty spot on?
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12 comments :
spot on for sure!
totally agree x 1000. i read this book while single (which i had to say i feel like i used to be better at being single too!) and it pretty much changed everything i'd ever thought. no more overanalyzing! then i met my husband..and, he called! all the time! he showed up, asked me on dates, and basically showed that he was into me. i never had to question it. so yep, i'm a believer in this theory too! :)
It's great advice! It doesn't have to be complicated. If he wants to see you, he'll make it happen. Throw all of those dating rules and games out the window.
I think it is really great advice. I love that there is a rule but sometimes there is an exception to the rule - but the EXCEPTION IS RARE - which is why it is the exception and not the rule.
I truly believe if a guy is into you he will show you he is into you.
Preach sista!
It's true. Girls like to analyze and obsess. Its part of the fun (?) of dating; it makes things interesting and lets us draw that butterfly feeling out a little longer. But when the butterflies turn into a pit in your stomach while waiting for him to call...its time to move on.
I always knew this movie was true and pretty much went by it when I was dating too. But its still fun to talk to my single gals about their adventures. My husband is usually listening(creeping?)in while we obsess and after my friend leaves he tells me the guy's view which is generally "he'll call/text if he's into it, but until then, keep looking and do NOT keep texting!"
Isn't it funny how much we complicate things? It seems so simple....haha!
I agree that this movie is perfect for the initial "Will we start dating" phase.
I would only add that once you're dating, but you're not sure where you're at, etc. - Just keep communicating directly with the other person. You're not going to "scare" off a person who wants to be with you, but if you don't let them know how you feel about the relationship you might lose them.
Nailed it!! :)
You have probably seen this somewhere too, If a guy wants to be with you there is nothing that can keep him away and if he doesn't want to be with you there's nothing you can do to make him stay...
I agree.
agree!
For a funny look at dating, read Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet. It's available on Amazon. com.
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